When someone is hurting, it can be challenging to know what to do. Hearing their hard story may cause our faces to reveal conflicted hearts. Eyes shift towards the floor and our body language shows defeat. Or, the opposite occurs. We jump into assumptions and resolutions.
Though we mean well, our efforts or lack thereof can sometimes make hurting loved ones feel worse.
In the face of tragedy or trials, it’s easy to feel impotent. The inability to take pain away or immediately make things better causes an uncomfortable tension we feel desperate to resolve. Our natural tendency is to fix things that can’t be fixed, at least not in that moment and often not by us.
So, what do we do? How can we be helpful to those who are hurting?